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A growing body of research suggests that the more you fight against your pain, the stronger and louder it’s going to get. Marsha Linehan, a retired University of Washington psychology professor and creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), calls the process of allowing the feelings to come without judgment or action “radical acceptance.”
She advises that “the pathway out of hell is through misery. The more you fight your misery, the more you stay in hell.” The goal of radical acceptance is not to condone or approve of a situation but to recognize its existence and let go of the emotional suffering caused by fighting reality.