I hate the thought of being rejected.
I didn’t go on my first date until I was seventeen, and that only happened because she asked me out. For years I had thought about writing my own book, but only did after my agent convinced me publishers were already interested. I was interested in speaking, but didn’t actually become a speaker until a conference asked me to appear.
Science says I shouldn’t feel too bad about it, though. Brain scans show that people who get rejected experience a physiological response similar to processing physical pain: The more the response matters the more hearing “no” physically hurts.